Posted by: penpatience | July 1, 2016



WRITERS WORDS:  “The one talent that is indispensable to a writer is persistence.” – Tom Clancy





One of my most read Musings was, “M is for Mini-Memoirs,” posted October 2014. Since that time I’ve continued to study the craft of memoir writing and learned why reducing memories to pen and paper is important for past, present, and future generations. Many readers thrive on reading traumas, tribulations and triumphs experienced by friends, family members, celebrities and individuals that have overcome life’s horrific obstacles or experienced unexpected joys and achievements.

Recently, after reading a truly great memoir (listed below), I came to two realizations about memoir writing. After a few generations have passed, memories of these generations, unless written down, are lost, sometimes forever. Also, writing a memoir, never an easy task, could be time consuming. Many memoirs may take months or even years to write. I caught myself musing, the longer the life, the longer the memoir.

However, a memoir doesn’t have to be written from cradle to grave, a writer could choose a specific period or segment of importance within their life. I again recalled my Mini-Memoir post, and the possibility of writing short memoir snippets- Blog Size (500 words-or less) that could be accomplished, accumulated and retained toward the writing of a future memoir:

Blog-Size Memoir Snippet #1:

“I shut myself inside the cramped hospital phone booth and called my mother, tears streaming down my face the afternoon doctors advised me my son had rheumatic fever and a damaged aortic valve. He was only ten years old, school was out for summer break and together we spent most of it in a hospital room. He rested in a hospital bed and I sat alongside him in the usual and uncomfortable hospital chair. Our lives took on a new and unplanned path that day changing our lives forever.” (a beginning paragraph–less than 500 words)

Blog-Size Memory Snippet #2:

“I heard recently my high school Alma Mater will become a large apartment complex sometime in late 2017. It seems like only yesterday my older sister held my hand while we walked the four blocks from home to school on my first day of Kindergarten. All the children in our small town  of upstate New York walked to school from the first grade through high school graduation. When I think of all that walking back and forth regardless of prickly hot days, heavy rains, and cold snowy mornings with snow banks sometimes two feet deep, I realized how lucky we were to grow up in the fifties – a gentler and safer Era. I still remember my mother’s warning never to take candy from strangers. If I wanted candy, she would give it to me at home. I believe this was the method she used, like many other mothers, to protect their kids from dangerous pedophiles. I was not allowed to play on the way to school– I had to arrive before the first bell. I was allowed to dally on the way home and when I think about that particular leniency, it probably was because it gave my mother a slightly longer respite from the homecoming of five school-age children. We walked and rode bikes everywhere. We walked to Friday night dances with local friends, and the Senior Prom was held in the themed and decorated high school gym. No, we didn’t walk to that dance. My steady boyfriend at the time borrowed his Dad’s car. However, it wasn’t many years after my sisters and I graduated, the school merged with another in the district and kids from outlying districts took the bus to the new consolidated school.” (a memory less than 500 words)

About that Memoir: “The Autumn Balloon, by Kenny Porpora.

 “Porpora’s coming-of-age memoir is a brilliant debut.” –USA Today

I believe every memoir writer should read Kenny Porpora’s Memoir. Through a tumultuous, chaotic, and impoverished upbringing and living between two warring dysfunctional, but individually loving parents, “Kenny” wrote. Writing was both salvation and the catalyst that gave Kenny a different choice in life. What I liked most about this memoir was Kenny’s best friend– his dog, Wozels. If you are a writer who would like to write a memoir someday, reading this book could be very helpful.

Find more information on Memoir Writing:,,

Happy Reading and Writing!


Posted by: penpatience | June 1, 2016


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Writers Words: “Asking a writer what he thinks about criticism is like asking a lamppost what it feels about dogs” – John Osborne

“Mabel’s Table,” my fiction short story was published in the May 13, 2016 online issue of Page & Spine Fiction Showcase.  It’s still available for a free and entertaining read. Just click on the archives –




 Spring! Tis the season when flowers are a-bloomin’ and bees are a- buzzin’. A long time gardener, I know if vegetables are to produce food for kitchen tables and flowers to enthrall with beautiful blooms, it can’t be accomplished without bees’ pollination. Although I’ve been stung multiple times over the years (Ouch-that hurt!), I realize bees and I must co-exist. Bees are not only important to humans; they play a crucial role in biodiversity. However, each spring when they attempt to build a hive under my deck, our tenuous liaison often ends in a sometimes contentious and sad removal. So far this year, I’ve been lucky—no hive just busy bees.

We take bees for granted. We forget that without bees there would be no honey, the sweet food made by bees foraging nectar from flowers. Beekeepers, called apiarists, keep bees to pollinate crops, collect their honey and other products that a hive produces: beeswax, pollen, and royal jelly. We grab a jar of honey from a green market or a store shelf not appreciating the hard work of bees and beekeepers. When I began to research bees, the information was mindboggling! I discovered there are over 25,000 types of bees (including the bad killer varieties) in the world and more species still awaiting discovery. I couldn’t cover so much extensive information in this short blog and decided to focus on one entertaining bee specie – the honey bee drone:

The drone bee is male. It’s interesting to note, the drone has no father, but does have a grandfather!!! Explanation: the queen who laid the drone eggs is the offspring of an egg fertilized by a male drone. However, drones are the offspring of eggs that have not been fertilized by a male. Biologists refer to this scenario as “parthenogenesis.” (Good grief, crazy sex and the offspring has no daddy!)

The male drone spends his time drinking nectar, mating (in the air, at that) and lazing around on flowers. They do little around the house (the hive).  (Sound familiar folks?)

Each colony will produce several hundred drones. Their main contribution is the act of mating. Mating tactics of drone bees emulate blokes congregating at a nightclub waiting for the Queens to arrive. Unfortunately, the Queens can only mate with so many drones leaving others in the lurch. (Too bad, better luck next time or were the unmated drones the lucky ones?)

The drone will die upon mating. This happens because the drone’s reproductive organs are torn away from its body when the queen flies off with the drones genitalia attached to her. (Lethal lady—shame on her!)

Drone lives are brief anyway. They may live for just a few short weeks, or, if lucky, may live up to four months. They’re thrown out of the colony by the end of summer and by the end of autumn, only a few or no drones will be around.  And they can’t get even. Unlike queens and worker bees, drones cannot sting. (Is that fair?)

If you are also a passionate gardener who doesn’t love but must be grateful for bees or would like to know more about bees and beekeepers, check out these great sites:,,


Posted by: penpatience | May 1, 2016


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Writers Words:  The first page sells that book; the last page sells your next book. Mickey Spillane, Crime Writer

 “Mabel’s Table, a fiction short story is scheduled for publication, Friday, May 13, 2016 and can be read without cost in Page & Spine Fiction showcase (





As long as most mothers draw breath, they are an unwavering presence and support in the lives of their children. Many don’t hesitate to let their feelings known and offer advice that sometimes falls on deaf ears. However, mothers volunteer it anyway.

If you tell your mother you’re going to pursue a writing career, she may clutch her chest and become speechless for the first time in your memory. Stunned, she’ll fail to communicate the following sage advice:

You can’t give up your day job. You won’t be able to pay the bills as an inexperienced writer. You’d be self-employed. It’s not a nine to five job with a paycheck every week and company benefits. You might have to sell that expensive gold Cross pen I gave you for graduation just to pay the rent. Maybe you should consider becoming a newspaper reporter and work for a nice newspaper here in town….

Writing is like solitary confinement. You won’t be chit-chatting with peers in the employee lounge during lunch break. You won’t have a boss reviewing the quality and quantity of your output every day. Writing is a lonely endeavor. It will isolate you from friends and family if you let it. You must exercise and balance writing with other extroverted pursuits or you may be called a “nerd.”

There’s too much competition.  There are some very successful writers out there and more joining the ranks every day.  Yes, some were initially lucky, but they are the few and far between. It takes a lot of hard work, persistence, talent and time to become a truly successful writer. Many writers like James Patterson, Harper Lee, John Grisham, Ernest Hemingway, and Stephen King became wealthy in their craft, but others have achieved less financial success. I don’t want to see you impoverished. Its okay to starve a bit when you’re young, but you must think ahead to your retirement years.

Writing is not for Wimps and Cry-Babies.  Editors and publishers are critical of authors’ submitted work.  They reject a story or article if it doesn’t meet their specific needs. It’s like that old saying, “different strokes for different folks.”  And God forbid you have spelling, punctuation errors or profuse eroticism and profanity. Forget it. All your hard work will bypass the “slush” and find a direct home in the circular file.

Readers are fickle folks. If they like your story, article or book they may tell a few reader friends how they really enjoyed your work. They may even take the time to write you a nice comment. However, if they don’t like it, they’ll pan it in monthly reader group, post a negative review on social media or tell others your book was “blah.”

However, once a mother’s child makes the commitment to a writing career, she will become the staunchest, most enthusiastic fan.  When you publish your first book, she’ll throw a big bash and introduce you to everyone she knows. “Have you met my wonderful Johnny – the writer?”


To: All the wonderful Mamas: Happy Mothers’ Day!

Posted by: penpatience | April 1, 2016


DSCF1588WRITERS WORDS:  “Everybody needs beauty as well as bread, places to play in and pray in, where Nature may heal and cheer and give strength to body and soul alike. – John Muir, Naturalist



 FLOR –   E-E-E –  DA   ROCKS!

Tourism was alive and well this past winter in Southeast Florida. And what a crazy winter it was…Grey-haired, face-lifted, healthy, wealthy and not so wealthy senior snowbirds determined to migrate away from snowy, frigid temperatures flooded the area like a swarm of locusts.

I often felt like I was riding in a carnival bumper car. Bumper to bumper autos  in unusually heavy four to six lane traffic weaved, screeched to halts and ran through numerous red lights (yes, RED not yellow—you could knit a pair of socks while waiting for lights to change on some highways.) Speed limits were often ignored and there is validity to the saying, “Staying Alive on I-95.” Long lines queued in restaurants, super markets, drug stores, movie theaters, specialty shops, local malls, casinos and local fairs and attractions.  Parking was an often vicious battle in a war where consideration for your fellow man was moot. The battle cry, “that’s my spot—I saw it first” was a war between tourists, more tourists and frustrated residents waiting patiently for the seasonal visitors’ exodus home.

And this generation’s seniors are unlike seniors of previous generations. Blessed with reasonably good health and resources, there’s no sitting in the rocking chair watching TV for this bunch! Try to find a parking spot or get a tee time at one of Florida’s many golf courses. Bikini and Speedo clad (a sight to behold) seniors inhabit the beaches like tanned mannequins.

I admit, I also qualify as a “snowbird” although I no longer consider myself one. I do spend a few winter months in Florida and have done so for quite a few years now. But I live, write, visit family and seldom find myself embracing the tourist-mode having done so in initial trips. What I love most about Southeast Florida is the reliable sunny days and a writer’s opportunity for extensive people watching.

Nightspots and bars offer an abundance of people-watching opportunities. When Latino entertainers danced on the bar at a busy South Beach venue there wasn’t a vacant stool. Mostly male but also female eyes bestowed rapt attention to the dancers. Talented, sexy (M & F) and fit, I loved watching them as long as they didn’t spill my margaritaJ  One warm summer evening a Delray outdoor theatre featured a rock band. Lawn chairs were filled with grey-haired seniors and groups of all ages lounged on outdoor benches or hung outside restaurant bars watching the concert. This band rocked it! Lawn chairs emptied out as seniors of all sizes and shapes danced in front of the stage. One short, chubby, happy-faced grandma type caught my attention.  She had the stamina of a race horse. I can’t recall a dance she sat out. She moved and grooved all by herself occasionally swinging her hips alongside a lone male or two doing the same.  Although I may use this happy lady’s persona in some future story, it was great fun watching her dance. She was that good. Do any of you remember the song, “Mustang Sally?” Well, happy grandma could not contain herself when it played. She executed more unexpected grooves and I became her champion rooting her on.  Call HER Mustang Sally! I yelled through the din, “You go girl.–“Ride Sally Ride.”

Fun in the sun makes for better writers. Agreed?


A Reminder: Pledge to wear Blue for Autism Awareness on Saturday, April 2nd. Let’s all “Light It Up Blue” in 2016.

Posted by: penpatience | March 1, 2016



WRITERS WORDS: “Get it down. Take chances. It may be bad, but it is the only way you can do anything good.” – William Faulkner

And…check out an addition to my Archive Sample Page. “Whatever the Cost” was one of twenty winners in the Saturday Evening Post, “Tribute to our Troops” contest published on August 23, 2013. Note: contest was limited to 250 words.




Everyone has a convenient spot where odds and ends are temporarily stowed until a more suitable location is found. Sometimes in our haste to put nondescript items out of sight a conglomeration of items accumulate in that provisional place—the junk drawer.

A recent inventory of my kitchen “junk” drawer consisted of a pile of loose rubber bands, a zip-lock bag of different size batteries, an unopened pack of AA batteries, a half-box of paper clips, old pencils and pens held together with a rubber band, a small magnifying mirror, a roll of shipping tape, a free pocket size calendar, Keurig Coffee Pot instructions, take-out menus from local restaurants, a tape measure, a dried-up black magic marker, a broken key-chain, thirty-six cents in change, two scratch pads, a small screwdriver, deck of cards and a pair of scissors. While I dumped the drawer and busied myself with re-organizing, relocating and discarding the unwanted items, my mind wandered. My thoughts, as they often do, turned to writing. Yes, writers have junk drawers too.

This writer has multiple catch-all places where I store bits and pieces of the writing craft. The Junk Drawer encompasses four journal notebooks dating from 2012, an online publications favorite list that has not been edited to date, a bunch of post-it notes, note-pads, and a daily journal filled with fiction, non-fiction story markets, protagonist names, contest due dates, quotations for future blog posts, story ideas and daily free-writing paragraphs that may go nowhere or somewhere in future writing endeavors. Tear sheets from publications that I find interesting are stacked here in piles. I also have many online writing downloads some not yet read (shame on me!)

And then there’s the junk drawer stored in my mind. A light bulb turns on inside my head giving me that elusive story ending. Quick! Write it down on a slip of paper before it floats away into nada land. Ideas written on many slips of paper float around my favorite writing area fondly referred to as “the hole.” The papers remain until they are utilized or hit the shredder. The junk drawer in my head is in constant flux-good stuff in– bad stuff out—a mind churn that never ends.

Oh yes, the real drawer, a large two drawer file cabinet stuffed with accepted and rejected work, writing craft information and some inspirational comments on my writing that keep me plugging along even when the going gets tough and tougher. I believe every writer/author has their personal and unique storage system and like a physical junk drawer, writers’ mental drawers need to be emptied and re-organized. I feel writers find it more difficult to empty their  mental junk drawers than physically discarding extraneous and accumulated paper.

Readers: What’s in your Junk Drawer?

A Reminder: Pledge to wear Blue for Autism Awareness on April 2nd. Let’s all “Light It Up Blue” in 2016.

Posted by: penpatience | February 1, 2016



Writers Words: Better a thousand times careful than one time dead. — Proverb




(Take the Pen & Patience Safety Quiz)

Safety is not a warm and fuzzy topic that draws enthusiastic attention and often mandatory safety protocols, newsletters, procedures and information are absorbed with half an ear. Until an accident happens!  

A former human resources professional, I can attest historically and still today many Human Resources Managers wear the safety hat. Often the responsibility for organizational and employee safety falls within their bailiwick as it did mine through many years and three different employers. Initially, I can’t say I was enamored of spearheading safety responsibilities that fell into my job jars but because it did, over time I developed greater safety awareness and safety practices that, subliminally, became ingrained in me. To this day I catch myself advising family, friends and colleagues when traveling anywhere to “Be Safe.”

Many individuals are creatures of habit and follow daily routines traveling from homes to workplaces, stopping for morning java, dropping off the kiddies at pre-school and fighting rush hour travel until arrival at work or home. Unfortunately, additional and unexpected distractions occur along these frustrating and time consuming jaunts. Peter Kissinger, president and CEO of the AAA Foundation for Traffic Safety said, “The lasting effects of mental distraction pose a hidden and pervasive danger that would likely come as a surprise to most drivers. The results indicate that motorists could miss stop signs, pedestrians and other vehicles while the mind is readjusting to the task of driving.” It would be a daunting task to cover all distractions in one blog post but one of the most current and potentially dangerous distractions is a cell phone.

We’ve all noticed individuals of all ages walking with heads down looking at some item on the phone, sending a text, checking a Facebook page, calling a friend, etc.  They walk off curbs into busy streets without looking up, bump into others and often careen into obstacles causing various injuries to themselves and innocent bystanders. Visualize these same distractions if you’re behind the wheel of a car. A cell phone should be stowed in a briefcase or purse while driving not bouncing along on the seat of the car for easy access.

Communications, including those considered urgent, should wait until you safely parked in a lot or off-road location. Although many states have enacted cell phone safety laws with stiff penalties, I believe the most important deterrent is to live another day instead of family members praying and crying while they bury your corpse in the cemetery plot. Tell me in the brief quiz below how safe are YOU?


  4. HAVE YOU EVER PARTICIPATED IN THE A.A.R.P., A.A.A (OR OTHER) DRIVER SAFETY TRAINING PROGRAM? (YES) (NO) ( many auto insurance companies offer a premium discount for participation in these programs)

QUIZ ANSWERS: You should have answered YES to Questions 1, 2, 4 and 5 to be considered a Super Safe person. The answer to Question 3 should be NO. If you answered YES to Question 3 you flunked the quiz and need to reread two of my previous posts: “Do It Yourself Obituary” posted March 2014 and “Do It Yourself Funeral”   posted February 2015.

Hey Readers! I care about you. Add a scoop of safety awareness to your daily diet—Be Safe!

Posted by: penpatience | January 1, 2016



WRITERS WORDS:  “We do not think ourselves into new ways of living. We live ourselves into new ways of thinking –Richard Rohr

 Reminder…my article “A Lady of the Light,” has been recently published in the November-December 2015 issue of the Lighthouse Digest.




One of my favorite sayings is “Life Happens While You’re Making Other Plans.” And how does that relate to making new resolutions for the coming year?

All too often present and future plans go awry when day-to-day occurrences intervene. Many times planning takes a back seat to instantaneous “happenings” not within our control:

The toilet overflows just before you leave for work; you get the flu-bug before you’ve had a chance to get the vaccine; the job you’ve held for the past ten years is relocating to India; your son flunked out of college and is coming home; your latest manuscript has been rejected four times with other harbingers of doom still possible. How depressing! How can one remain resolute under these circumstances?  But Hey! Hang on! Positive interventions also occur:

You receive a new job offer at a higher salary than you’re presently earning; you won $50 on a State lottery scratch off card, a co-worker buys your morning coffee, and a magazine editor likes and accepts your story–“HOO-RAH!”

So why plan ahead and make new resolutions if unforeseen obstacles are strewn in your path like large rocks instead of small pebbles easily kicked aside with your foot?

My Answer: Never Lose Sight of Your Goals!

A resolution made for the upcoming year is a goal you expect to achieve. It’s okay to postpone it due to unexpected events, but better late than never—it shouldn’t be cancelled. Unfortunately, if a writing assignment has a specific deadline (OH NO!) well then, burning the midnight oil is a must to get it done and then rest another day.

Here are a few of my 2016 Writer Resolutions:

I will write every day (unless I’m sick with that flu-bug).

I will begin the novel this year, the one I was supposed to begin this past summer (it was postponed due to dreaded research and tending the garden).

I will update my Writer Site pages on a more regular basis (Sheesh! One page dated back to 2012).

I will read one non-fiction, historical book, one memoir, and one book in a genre I dislike: i.e. – science-fiction. (an easy one—I do this every year).

I will continue to hone my writing craft through perusing hard copy, online resources, and writer sites (I love reading successful writers’ work).

And many years ago I was and still remain a fan of Harvey Mackay, successful businessman and author of “Swim with the Sharks,” “Sharkproof,” etc. Harvey also wrote a weekly newspaper column titled “Mackay on Business.” One column early in his career highlighted his Mackay’s Morals collection. Here is one of my favorites that might help writers achieve their 2016 resolutions:

“A dream is just a dream. A goal is a dream with a plan and a deadline.”

I’m sure life happened to Harvey, but I doubt he made other plans.

Happy New Year!

Posted by: penpatience | December 1, 2015



WRITERS WORDS“You can’t wait for inspiration. You have to go after it with a club.” –Jack London




 The November 2013 Monthly Musing, “The Power of the Pen,” stated my personal lament on the lack of good penmanship and the decline of what is now labeled Cursive Writing. Will good writing disappear like the dinosaur?  I hope not. Two recent events had me musing again about the importance of good writing skills.

First, I was filling out forms. Usually, there are two signature lines: one advising “Please Print” the other “Signature.” During my business career, there were many instances including Job Applications where both Print and Signature lines appeared almost the same. There were some feeble attempts to connect letters with a line or two here and there but I often witnessed half-print half-write scrawls. Our current generation has become prolific texting experts, tweeters, typists, e-mail and mobile aficionados. Today, folks often do not pick up a pen to hand write a brief note, letter or condolence to a colleague, friend or family member. It’s so easy to thumb a text message, choose an Internet free greeting card, type an e-mail or, believe it or not, post a gift thank you note on Facebook.  Opening a desk drawer brought me to the second event.

When I opened that desk drawer I saw a packet of unused Christmas cards leftover from a previous year. Holiday greeting cards have been a societal tradition for many generations. When I rifled through the cards, I reflected on how many people still send out hand-written cards. Many far away friends often include a special note—-“I’m so glad we had the chance to visit together this past summer.” I’d hate to see the tradition of choosing just the right card for a special individual become extinct. To me, it’s always a pleasure to bring in the snail mail and discover a lovely hand-written envelope tucked among the bills. I share with you an unedited poem tucked into a holiday greeting my mother received from her great friend, Margaret Weldon:


The pleasure of sending Christmas cards

I seemed to be denied because of arthritis

And some pills that I tried for a quick cure

Because I needed a rhyme;

To send to old friends at Christmas time.


I called Dr. who said, “for you these pills will not do

You are retaining fluid

Like soot in a flue.”


I said to my friend, Stephanie,

“I don’t have the wit. I’ve just passed 85 years;

So this Christmas I quit.”

She said, “It’s true you are old; but have grit

If you ask me, I bet you don’t quit.”


With pain of arthritis from the tip of my toes

To the top of my head,

I threw down my pen and stalked off to bed.

Like a gusty wind I tossed to and fro

I couldn’t drift off but at least I let go.

But the bells rang out, they seemed to say

Be happy be happy, it’s Christmas Day.

Then came an anguished cry like a wind’s sad wail

It was silenced and hushed by a stronger gale

Then the Bells! The Bells! Rung out again;

Peace on Earth, Good Will to Men.


Then in peaceful relaxation,

I awoke with a grin;

Oh! Gee! By golly! It’s Christmas again.


By Margaret E. Weldon – inserted within a 1991 Christmas card to her dear friend of the same name: Margaret


This holiday season share your writing talent with a veteran. Send a hand-written greeting card to: Holiday Mail for Heroes, PO Box 5456, Capital Heights, MD 20791-5456. The deadline for overseas mail is December 6, 2015. More information at:

Check out my Writer site’s New page: Published Archive Samplers– “What do you owe your Audience?” published in the July 2014 Tiny Lights Writers Exchange – a free read.


Posted by: penpatience | November 1, 2015


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WRITERS WORDS: “Almost everything will work again if you unplug if for a few minutes, including you.” – Anne Lamott, Writer

“A LADY OF THE LIGHT,” my non-fiction article, is now published and available for reading in the November-December 2015 issue of the Lighthouse Digest –






Writers have their “faves” as I like to call them. Phrases, sentences, scenes and actions that are included in work projects often to our detriment. Unfortunately, as we immerse ourselves in story development many of us are loathe to deleting or changing our “darlings” as Stephen King refers to these inclusions in his wonderful book for writers, “On Writing.” A brief excerpt:

“Try any goddam thing you like, no matter how boringly normal or outrageous. If it works, fine. If it doesn’t, toss it even if you love it. Sir Arthur Quiller-Couch once said,” Murder your darlings” and he was right.”

I recently wrote a short 150 word, flash fiction story as a contest entry. No, I didn’t win, but I console myself with the knowledge two past contest entries  were chosen as winning entries before. However, no writer can rest on past laurels. Although this particular story was not a winner, I hated to give up on this particular piece (a story-darling?) and decided to rewrite it for a literary publication that accepts very short fiction up to 250 words.

This was the “darling” phrase within the story –“but Paul died—too young, too soon.” I thought it was a poignant and emotional statement that, at the time, was right. However, as I continued to write I realized I was “telling” the readers directly that Paul died. I didn’t want to do that. I wanted readers to surmise Paul was deceased at the end of the story.  I reworked sentences before and after my “darling” phrase many times refusing to let this special phrase go. After reading the manuscript aloud four more times and realized the disconnect still was apparent, a swift sweep of the edit pen removed my “darling” Paul phrase snuffing it out—forever.

Sound familiar? Paul was not my first “darling” and he might not be my last. I love to bury dead bodies in the Florida Everglades (a past darling), my female protagonists all too often are pondering, plotting, crying, lying, or conniving over coffee, tea, or booze in their kitchens (another darling!) But over time and more writing experience less “darlings” have squeaked through. How did that happen? I became hardened and merciless and killed them. It had to be done.

Upon further speculation I realized I never liked the male name, Paul, but felt guilty snuffing him out. After giving the name more thought, I realized Paul could become a new character who potentially could become a nefarious or just plain nasty character in a future writing endeavor. I took out the edit pen again and deleted the word– forever. Who knows? Paul could live again in a different way and in another story. Sometimes it’s difficult to give up our “darlings” entirely……


Posted by: penpatience | October 1, 2015



NOTE: “A Lady of the Light,” my non-fiction article, is scheduled for publication in the November-December 2015 issue of the Lighthouse Digest –

WRITERS WORDS: The harder the conflict the greater the triumph – George Washington




October 2015 and already the 2016 presidential election chaos has begun. Unfortunately, we all are held hostage to pre-candidate posturing, name-calling, finger-pointing, mud-slinging from potential aspirants vying to attract the American public’s attention and that coveted vote.  And the election is still over a year away-SHEESH!

While aspiring contenders are roaming about the countryside pressing the flesh, kissing babies, munching hotdogs and hosting roast beef dinners at too many $$ a plate, I mused– Who is minding the U.S. store in their absence?  I reflected on priorities; what happened to government business—getting the job done? Has the daily grind taken a back seat to election hoopla?

I’ve been a conscientious voter since my eighteenth birthday. I believe every American citizen should vote and have their individual voice heard in the election booth. However, the election climate encountered in the fifties and sixties when I first began voting is unlike the chaotic media frenzy we endure today. I recall the “I LIKE IKE” button utilized in the campaign of respected General, Dwight David Eisenhower, who became our 34th President and served from 1953-1961.  I can’t imagine him campaigning in today’s vociferous environment.

By the time the actual election occurs in November 2016, most voters have been saturated with a gross amount of slick advertising, glossy mailers, and other undesirable communications. So much money spent by two candidates who more than likely have enjoyed the accoutrements of the wealthiest segment of American society.  I couldn’t help musing the other day a “what if” scenario. Humor me!

What if candidates running for President were each allowed the same amount of campaign support dollars within a specific period of time before the election, let’s say, $1,000,000 each. Each candidate could use less of the available dollars but NOT MORE. Any remaining dollars would be contributed to a charity of choice. (Yes, I know- what leftover dollars:)  In my mind, this frugal scenario calls for reaching the American public through succinct planning and brilliant, carefully planned strategy.  Kudos to the candidate who could pull it off!

Listed below are a few tips to maintain your sanity in the upcoming 2016 election:

  1. Utilize an answering/voice mail system on landline telephones most often targeted for political intrusions.  Hit delete.  Same for unrecognized/unknown numbers to cell phones. (Check out the Do Not Call Registry or Call-Blocking equipment)
  2. Toss repetitive glossy mailers after receipt of the first one. Daily paper reminders are overkill and fill up recycle bins and dumpsites-a waste of environmental trees.
  3. Do your own research. Look up knowledge, skills, abilities, background, and accomplishments  of all candidates. Make an informed decision.
  4. Watch the televised debates, and other election programs with a jaundiced and speculative eye. Review each individual’s track record, not what they say they will do IF elected.  When the same old jargon becomes overwhelmingly repetitive, there’s always the MUTE button or another media channel of good entertainment.
  5. Many campaigners are photogenic with great oratory skills while others may not possess those winning traits. In my mind, a winning persona does not determine whether a candidate may be great Presidential material with the right qualifications.

However, besides the survival of the often noxious election onslaughts, more important is the fact that each and every American citizen is lucky to have been born, live and vote in the United States, the greatest country of the universe.  I wake up every morning grateful to be living here.

And, although still a year away, I will vote!  I welcome your feedback and comments!

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